Our FAQ and Advice page is in constant development to help provide you with the answers you’re seeking.
We work with our members to develop the responses to your questions. Because of this, our responses should be seen as guidance through the perspective of individual personal experiences.
How do I know if I’m Bisexual?
You are you. Take your time in figuring yourself out. Don’t worry about if a label fits you or if you are not sure about where you fit. If one thing doesn’t work out don’t worry, making sure you find happiness is the safest thing you can do for yourself.
How do I know if I’m gay?
You are you. Take your time in figuring yourself out. Don’t worry about if a label fits you or if you are not sure about where you fit. If one thing doesn’t work out don’t worry, making sure you find happiness is the safest thing you can do for yourself.
Is it okay to stay in the closet?
Absolutely. If the environment or people around you make you fell unsafe when it comes to coming out of the closet it is completely fine. Your safety is the top priority and is very important. If you feel like staying in the closet right now, is the best thing for you, stick with it until the right opportunity and situation arises.
Who do I tell?
If you have people whom you trust you might feel like telling them, especially if you are close to an individual who can place themselves in your situation. If you are not in a position where you feel safe to talk to friends or family right now, there is no rush, and there are plenty of ways to talk openly and express yourself, for example through SYA youth groups and 1-2-1’s.
How do I come out to my friends?
Just tell them. Believe it or not, your friends will be a lot more accepting than you think. If they don’t accept it straight away, give them time as it can be new and overwhelming sometimes. Real friends wouldn’t care about your sexuality.
How do I come out to my parents?
If you want to come out to your parents I would first accept the individual you are, and then in your own time admit it to them, face to face.
The following are some real experiences our members have had coming out to their parents:
"I came out to my mum in public, in case she reacted badly. I wanted it to be in an open neutral space where I was safe."
"Understand that there is a risk. I told my mum, and she told my entire family without asking me, I wasn’t ready yet and it really hurt me. I wanted to come out on my own terms."
What do I say to people who ask “How do you know”
If you have the confidence, ask them the same question. “How do you know you’re straight?” It tends to throw them off a little. But be careful, it risks initiating a hostile and negative environment.
How do I talk to people about stopping their homophobic jokes?
Are you confident enough to speak up to them? It’s important not to make yourself uncomfortable or unsafe, if you do not feel like you can speak up to them directly then ask a teacher, or a supportive superior to talk to them. There are rules in both schools and workplaces against discrimination so that you do not have to put up with it.
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